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51 ~ Catch Up Chat with Nat! (Post grad anxiety, finding income, dating life, etc.)

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Happy Tuesday! This week is a chill chat with Natalie about what life post grad has looked like so far and planning for what is to come. She talks about apartment hunting, how to find income (having 4 jobs!), and dating life. 

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Hello, happy Tuesday, welcome backto what bolden balanced. This is natalie a back at it again for youthis Tuesday. Super hype doing a fun Little Solo episode for y'All. Asyou know, we're just gonna kick things off with the three, two one. So here's my three, two what welcome to go three, two one. If you don't know, this stands for three good things that happened inthe last week, to not so good things, and one thing we aremanifesting for the future. So my first three is that I actually had alot of family in town this week and got to hang out with them,as I think my mom and I mentioned last week, which, by theway, I hope you guys liked that episode with my mom. It wasSuper Fun to record and I love her and we get along super well.So hopefully that came through and you enjoyed our fifty episode. But anyway,like I was saying, I think we mentioned that my sorry, there's acar alarm going off. Is it my car? Maybe I should check.Nope, it's done. Okay. Anyway, like I was saying, I thinkwe mentioned that it was my Grandpa, my mom's Dad's ninety birthday this weekand also my grandma, his wife's eighty eight birthday. They have thesame birthday. It's super cute and they're super cute. They're still so inlove. They've been married almost seventy years now and yeah, they're just goalsin every way. But yeah, we got to hang out with them andjust the rest of my family. had some cousins come in from Chicago anduncle come from Canada and cousin come from La just people from all over,all my family that I love and do not get to see very often becausethey live so far away. So yeah, it was super nice and also wedon't get to all be together that often, which is really nice.It's sorry the car alarm was still going off, but yeah, it's supernice to get to all be together. We really appreciate the time that wehave when we're all together. And, like we said last week, I'mnot normally there. I haven't been there lately since they've been all together becauseI've been in Utah, which I guess it was mostly Thanksgiving when they wereall together previously, or family reunions or whatever, and I just haven't beenthere. So I was really happy I was there this time and I madeit. So yeah, it was Super Fun, super great to see everyone, especially my cousins that I don't get to see very often. My cousinfrom La and I are pretty close. We're pretty similar, and my cousin'sfrom Chicago are Super Fun and Nice and just the sweetest boys. So,yeah, it's always a good time with them. And just yeah, mygrandparents are like, seriously such goals. They're just so cute. I puta video on my instagram story of them blowing out their birthday candles. Eachhad a cake, obviously, and my grandma goes I won. What doesshe say first? I don't know, it's so cute, but she saysI did it first. I won because she blew out her candles before.My grandpa is just so sweet and they just love each other and her smileso cute and they're just literally so cute and I love them so much.So I was really happy that I was able to be there for this bigcelebration and it was Super Fun and great. My second two actually happened prior tothis. If you recall, I mentioned last week that I went tothe Hampton's this last weekend and that was...

...super, Super Fun I was stayingwith my friend Kiki. Her family got a house for I think just likethe month of July. And Yeah, we were in Southampton. If you'refamiliar with the area, I certainly was not. That was my first timegoing to the Hampton's and I had the best time. I wasn't there superlong, just from Friday to Sunday. They totally wanted me to stay longerand said I could stay Monday, but you know, me, wants tohave a plan. It's like hard to shift things around. So so Iend up leaving Sunday as planned. But it was still super fun. Wemade the most of the time we had. We went to the first night wehad a nice dinner and then we went to this like fun like nightclub, Barthing, just in Southampton with Kiki and her sister. Had A greattime there. And then the second night we went to Sag Harbor, whichis Super Fun. I've heard of SAG harbor before, so it was coolto get to be there. And Yeah, we just we had some fun,had more dinner, went out to like a bar with I met someof key's college friends, which was Super Fun for me because Kiki is oneof my best friends from high school. So it's always fun to get tomeet our high school friends, college friends. It's like world's colliding and I'm surefor her it was like even cooler, you know, because I love whenI'm on the other end of that. So yeah, it was just SuperFun. And then what do we do? The last day, wewere maybe going to go to the beach, but the weather wasn't great. Thatwas the one that kind of sad part about when I was there.The weather wasn't great and I'm like jealous because my other friends are there thisweekend and the weather's like so much better. But that's okay, good for them. We still had fun and the weather cooperated somewhat for us, soit was okay of that. Yeah, we just hung out. She hada pool at her house, so that was nice. We hung out therewhen it was nice out. We went to an art gallery, re justchopped around, Super Fun stuff. Yeah, anyway, I just had the besttime there and I'm so grateful that Kiki and her family had me overand Kikis so much fun to hang out with and so we could be literallydoing anything and I would have a great time. But being in the Hampton'swas extra fun. So, yeah, very grateful for that. And thenmy last three is just thought. Today, actually this morning, I went overto Pennsylvania, just an hour drive away, and did some modeling fora photo shoot for a hair company, hair product. I'm not sure ifI can say it yet because they're not posting about it too much yet becauseI think it's like for a new product. But yeah, it was Super Fun. I applied for it on backstage, which is just like one of theactor, performer whatever entertainment business websites, and yeah, I booked it andit was supposed to be on Tuesday but the weather was rainy. Again. The weather here has been not great. It's been really rainy and just badweather. But yeah, it's it was Super Fun. I was justfun to like be treated like a professional and like a professional model, Iguess. I mean I'll say it like it's something I've always like thought about. Given my height and everything, I don't think my height really mattered forthis, but there was another model there who lives in Brooklyn, so sheactually drove two and a half hours for the shoot, which I was like, Oh wow, I thought maybe I was be still being silly for drivingan hour, but I guess not. And she said this is what shedoes, like this is her fulltime job, is just modeling. So I thoughtthat was super cool and yeah, it made me feel a special andI got paid obviously, which was nice. So yeah, that that's just superfun. Im My toos, my first two, is just that Ihad to this will sound silly, but I had to take off my Utahlicense plates and put on New Jersey ones. And if you want to, justGoogle what Utah license plates look like,...

...with like the arches on them,and then Google the plane New Jersey license plates like you'll see why thisis so tragic and so basically, my point there's just that the UTAP platesare beautiful, like Beautiful Arches, and New Jersey's literally just yellow. SoI thought like the Utah plates like made my car look cool, especially inNew Jersey where no one else has them. Like it really was almost like anaccessory that just made my little black car looks super cool. But alsoit's just sad because it's like the end of an era, like now Ihave to get a New Jersey license again and just not be a Utah resident, which I don't know. I mean I knew it wasn't gonna be likefor forever, but it's just really like official that that time of my lifeis over. So, yeah, it's pretty sad but yeah, so it'sa too. So it's sad, but I know it's good, but it'salso sad. And then my second two is just that I am now wasstarting to get a little stressed about apartment hunting. This will dive into moreand the meat of the episode, but yeah, I just is it's likecoming up. Like I was saying, maybe I'll move in August, maybeSeptember. I don't think August is going to happen, and honestly it shouldn't. Like I should save up and stay at my parents for a little bitlonger. But like, I know, I just the thing that's really trickyabout it is if I had moved like a month ago, it would havebeen great, but now I've waited to the point where, Pete, covidis like over in New York, like people are like moving back. They'rebasically like covid isn't over, but they're acting as though it is. Andso, I mean a lot of people are vaccinated in New York which isawesome, so good for New York, but because of that people are areall moving back there. They're not scared to live in the city anymore.And when people were scared to live in the city, the prices were alot cheaper and easier to get things, but now it's starting to get hikedup again and get even more competitive, it sounds like, based on whatmy friend was saying, which I will talk more about this in the meatof the episode, but yeah, that's a little preview of it. Formy two's, I'm just stressed. And then my one this week is somethingmy mom will like that I'm saying. It's to not overplan over book myself, which I mean I don't technically overbook myself, like things aren't at thesame time. You know, it's just I don't really give myself a breakoften, which is why I'm recording this episode so late in the week andI have to quickly edit it after tonight. I just yeah, I just sayyes to things. I can't say no, like I just I havetrouble saying no to things and I don't want to say no to things likeand honestly, a lot of these things that I'm doing now are things likeI'm helping initiate and plan. So, like I'm just going out of myway to make myself super busy, I guess, but I don't know.I really thrive off being busy, I think. But sometimes I guess mymom's right that like I like sacrifice sleep and, you know, whatever timeto like cook a healthy meal and just like clean my room and do allthese other things that I should be doing. So yeah, so I just Ineed to not over plan. Yeah, but that being said, I justwant to give you guys a preview of what I'm doing and the nextfew days. Yeah, I'll give you like a mini life update of thisweek. I know I did a little bit in my three, two one, but this coming weekend I am going to Boston. Well, Sunday throughTuesday I'm going to Boston to hang with and visit our friend Laura. Soshout out Laura, if you're listening, I'm super were excited to see you. Well, I guess by the time this episode airs I will be withLaura, which is why I need to...

...quickly record and edit it so Idon't have to do that while I'm with Laura. Yeah, so I'm reallyexcited to see her. She's really excited to see me and she's been sendingme she's like making a little itinerary for us, which I love. NormallyI'm the one planning making itinerary, so it's kind of Nice for to havesomeone else do it. It also is like a little bit stressful because likeit's like letting go of control, but at the same time she is theone who lives there, so she should be showing me around and she knowswhat to do. So it'll be good and I'm super excited. And thenI just Miss Laura. So I'm excited to see her. But before that, tomorrow, which is Saturday. So I'm leaving Sunday, like I said, and I'm driving, so just put it out there. It's like afour and a half hour drive each way. But before that, tomorrow my friendsfrom college, Brook and Aria, are I'm meeting up with them.We're going to the Jersey shore to see our other friend Quincy, in ashow, but before that we are going to hang at the beach, whichI'm very excited for. I I've probably mentioned it before, but I literallylove the beach. You guys, like I am just such a beach galand it's probably because I'm from New Jersey, but like the Jersey shore, likehits Deff, and I'm just so excited to go there and just sitin the sun and be in the water. And well, I might not bein the water actually, it might be freezing. It's July now,so like there's a chance, but like it's probably freezing, but maybe we'll, you know, dip our toes in Um. But it would be funto go in like my childhood was like going in the Ocean at the Jerseyshore and like jumping over the waves and going under some of them, andyou know how it goes. But very excited to be doing that. SoI'm driving US broken. Are Your meeting me here in Jersey? There takingthe train from New York State. And Yeah, and then before that,earlier this week, I should have said this as one of my threes,but me broken Aria went to a vineyard in Brookstown. I went. It'sin the Hudson Valley if you're familiar with the area. So that was reallyfun to get to go there. Yeah, it was just really nice and Istayed over at Brooks House, which I've never been to her house before. She's been to mine, but I never made it up there, soit was nice to finally make it up. That was also just like a littlebit over an hour drive, hour fifteen, so not too bad.Yeah, so those are my future plans and I'm really excited and I'll letyou, you all know how they go. And Yeah, I'm really excited forthe beach tomorrow, like I'm so excited, but also to see myfriends, especially Quincy, I haven't seen since, I don't know May,yeah, since graduation. So super pumped. And I'm really excited to see Lauraand to go to Boston. So I haven't been to Boston since mysister was touring colleges there and I went with her, so that had tohave been, I don't know, at least seven, eight years ago.So I'm very excited to be going back now that I'm like a real adultand can actually see if I potentially, maybe you want to live there someday. I mean, and it's not like top of my list, buthonestly, like I wouldn't rule it out, and so I'm really excited to seeit and Laura's been loving it. So yeah, but now I willdo a little content update for you all. So I am avidly watching this seasonof the Bachelor, as I'm sure most of you are aware of.Yeah, this week's episode a lot happened. Well, first she had she wasthat guy's name. She had her first day of the week. OhGod, I can't think of his name, I don't know. But the guyit was cool. I say. He has like Chris Jackson's eyebrows.They're just super thick. But yeah, I like him. They did like, Oh see, they did this like ftatious season where they have, andfor Matt James This season, where they have like a wedding, like afake wedding, and like a wedding photo shoot, which is like, Idon't know, like it's interesting for a first date to like do a pretendwedding like in the real world like that...

...would be deemed just like pretty likecrazy if you ask me or probably anyone. So I think that's yeah, Ithink that's interesting, but I think if the date goes well, thenI probably makes, you know them more inclined to keep that person around becausethey literally saw what their wedding day, I. Would Look like with thatpersons. So that's you know, manifesting or whatever you want to call it. I don't think she will end up with him, especially since I can'teven remember his name and I hate myself for that. Whoops, you shouldknow I'm really bad with names. I think you all know that, andI'm just I'm good with faces, I don't know names. But yeah,so I don't think he's gonna go Super Far, but he did get arose in his date, so, you know, good for him. Andthen she had the group date, which some tea went down with hunter.I mean my mom and I were saying last week how we hate hunter.So spoil alert. He did not get a rose last week, so heis gone. So thank goodness for that. Yeah, so glad that ended howit did, but it was looking a little iffy for a second.And then I was so sad. She finally had her one on one withConnor and she sent him home. She said she didn't feel sparks when theykissed, which I guess is fair. Like it's so sad, like connors, like so like my type in the sense that he's like such a weakyeah, it's just so sweet and like means so well, and I thinkhe's cute. Was Really Sad. He looked so cute for their evening dayand then that's when she like broke up with him. But I feel likehe looks so cute, so so sad um and he was like crying andwent to say bide all the guys, which I feel like that doesn't normallyhappen. I feel like they don't normally go say bye to the guys whenthey're leaving. I'm like the guy just who works for the Bachelor. They'lljust like get their suitcase and give it to them and they ride home inthe limo or whatever. But no, he just it's not a limo,it's a car. But but no, he said by all the guys,and I bet he asked if he could, because they all loved him and heloved all of them because he's such a sweetie. So it was so, so sad. But then Blake came to the rescue and played the boombox and whatever. I mean. I was fine with it. I thinkit was like sweet. My mom like thought felt kind of iffy about it, but I don't know, assuming that he had like good intentions with it, then I think it was really nice and kind of him to do thatand I'm I see that like they, you know, really like each otherand they get along really well, like it feels like they are each other, like Katie is blake in a woman's body and vice versa in some ways, and I think I saw that somewhere. So I don't think I could takefull credit for that. But yeah, I don't know. I'm not hatingon Blake likes. I know some other people are, but like ahuge fan. We Still Love Greg and Katie said that Greg was the bestkisser. So yeah, but I did see it, Tick Tock, thatwas saying something about Greg like being fake and just doing it for fame,which I've sort of said before. So I don't know, I just likethat makes me sad and I hope that he's legit because he he's so cuteand I don't know, I I want to date him, and he's froma town not too far from me, so he should just like lose andcome move back home and come find me. So, Greg, if you're listening, hit me up. I'm also an actor, so, like,it's fine, I get you. You really cute and I heard your goodkisser. So yeah, I'm here. You can selden. So my dam'sat Natalie Aris. Thank you very much. Yeah, that's that with the Bachlurrette. What else? Oh yeah, and then she sent she also senthome a bunch of people. Like, as we knew, or at leastI'm sure most of you know,...

...if you're watching and follow the Bachelorette, her season ended early. So I feel like this episode maybe played somepart in that. It seems like she sent home more people than she wassupposed to. I'm not sure, though. I'm sure some more dramatic stuff happenslater in the season that makes it end even earlier, but I don'tknow. Yeah, okay, that's that. With the Bachelorette, I've been acontinuing to watch broad city, which is a show I brought up lastweek. It's pretty fun. It's just super stilly, like there's not thatmuch to say about it. Like, if you're a Jew from New York, maybe watch it. I don't know, it's fun, but also if you'renot Jewish, I think you'd enjoy it too. Yeah, that's allyou say about that. Maybe watch it with friends. It's kind of morefun, like a late night snacky whatever vibe. Well, I just pausedand tried to remember it. I was going to say, but I can'tremember, so we're just gonna move. I just remembered. This is chaoticwhen I'm by myself, guys, and my voice is hurting because I wassaying to myself driving to and from Pennsylvania. But I mean, I know I'mforgetting it. No, I was going to say how I've been watchingBo Burnham's. Okay, first of all, I watched inside. I was aboutto stay inside out. I have seen that, but inside. ButBurnham's newest comedy special, it's not even really comedy, dark comedy, whatever, special on Netflix and it is wild. You should all watch it right now. Yeah, it's he's like a genius, like I don't know,like Beethoven type, but like not quite beethoven level, but like in thesense that like it's just like he's crazy and like people think he's crazy nowand maybe he is that crazy, but I don't know, it's crazy.It's crazy. You should watch it and just like maybe rewatch it. Myone friend I watched it with has seen it three times now and I feellike you pick up on new things each time. So I don't know.Yeah, go, go, watch that. But because of that I've been watchinghis other comedy specials that were from years ago. I watched to hismore recent one myself and then I watched with my friend Julie his first onelast night, and he's our age and that one he's twenty two, sothat's crazy. He looks like a baby but he's just like so particular andweird, like he's like his own type of weird. And some of thejokes are a little little ifie, but some of them are, you know, make you think, and it was interesting seeing inside and then watching thosebecause I'm like, oh, that makes sense. Why he does that likethat, like that's just how he does things. So I don't know,I'd recommend watching them again, maybe watch with a friend, watch multiple times. I don't know. Pretty Fun, pretty fun. And now we willjump into the meat of the episode. I think. I keep singing becausemy voice hurts and singing makes it hurt, and this hey myself. But nowI don't what I was gonna talk about this week. Is it justlike check in, basically, of Postgrad life. It is now, youknow, two wish months since graduating, a little bit over two and ahalf if you will since graduating, and so you know we're going to doa little chicken. Yeah, I guess I'll kick things off with like how, you know, finding income is going, because that's a thing and I needto start paying off my student loan soon, which is scary. Iwas have a goal to try to pay...

...off my already acquired interest, myinterest that I include while I was still at school. Luckily there wasn't anyfrom this last year because they paused that during covid which is nice. ItUN pauses in October, I believe. So gotta get going on that.But yeah, I have some some debt that I need to figure out,but that's okay. I do have say things like I have. I havesavings. It's like for life, like for New York, rent and whatevermay come my way. But you know, I knew, I knew the loanswere part of the same thing. So I just need to I justneed to bite the bullet and I need to pay off the interest that Ialready have and made me some more. I don't know. That's already goingto be like a lot. So we'll see. Me I need to checkin. I haven't looked at my like FAFSA or whatever US student loan,Oh money thing website since like May, I guess. So it's been acouple months, like since around graduation. So I really need to check backon that, refresh my memory with how much I owe and like kind offigure out a payment and plan for myself. Yeah, so, with that beingsaid, money, I need it and yeah, it's it's so trickywith my career, like I just if you're an artist, you understand that. It's just you just will never have a study income unless you know,you count your side hustle jobs, which are nice but you'd probably don't makeas much as you would like to from that or you just hate it.So yeah, I don't know if I said this, this could have beena three, but I am starting a new job next week at Equinox,the gym, so that's exciting. I'm going to be working at one inmy town, so that's fun in New Jersey and then hopefully I'll be ableto transfer it to New York City. There are thirty locations in Manhattan aloneand a bunch in Brooklyn and wherever else. So I'm sure wherever I move toin New York there will be an equinox pretty nearby, so I'm sureI could transfer, and my reason for applying it to equinox is as follows. My reasons are as follows, the first being it's a job that Ican, you know, have whatever hours I want. I can work reallyearly in the morning or I could work late at night, which is nicebecause I need flexibility. The second reason, it's a big one, and it'sthat I need a gym and I love the Gym. As you know, if you've listened to our other episodes, I really love the gym. Ilove working out. I haven't been to the gym and, you know, two weeks now since I left Utah. So it's something I need in mylife again, and Equinox is pretty bouget. I'm pretty excited. It'sa really Nice Jim like. People pay a lot of money for memberships thereand as an employee, I get a free membership. So yeah, that'sthat's a lot and I'm really excited about that. Yeah, so I'm justexcited to be hitting the gym again, working out, feeling good about myselfand like feeling like I'm getting into a pattern of a healthy lifestyle. Speakingof I'm thinking about getting new and Omm I believe. If you have itor know anyone who's used it, let me know. My friend used itand she lost a ton of weight, so I know she loved it.I'll have to check back in with her now, because it's been like acouple months, see how it's going after...

...or I don't really know if it'sthere's ever and after, but I'll check in with her and see what shethinks about it, what the tea is, because I think that's also an investment. I'm not really sure how much, but like I don't know. Igot to look into it. But Um, yeah, so equinox isgoing to be one of my streams of income. Excited about it. Ohsorry. The third reason is I have a friend who recommended it to mebecause he works at Equinox in the city and he has, I think,since he graduated. He graduated from my program a couple years ago and he'sbeen living in the city where can't equinox and he started at the front desk, I think, and now he's like a big personal trainer. So likegood for him. But he said what's really nice about it is since they'reall over the city, like if you have an audition or something in likea random part of the city, then odds are that there's an equinox nearby, so you can like get your life together at the equinox warm up,like do your thing and right by your audition. So I think that's reallyconvenient and really nice and yeah, I don't know, I yeah, I'mexcited. I have to research more about equinox and just read through everything andI watched a couple youtube videos of just people saying that they think it's worththe money membership, but I have to look into other things about it.But yeah, I'm really excited and that is when it is going to beone of my streams of income going toward paying rent and for life and studentloans. Another income I'm having right now is, as you know, I'vetalked about working for VP kid, which is also a more recent endeavor.Will be less recent than equanocks but nonetheless still pretty new. I've just beenteaching for about two weeks now. So yeah, I've taught like fifteen classes, I think. Not a ton, but, like I said in mythree, two one, I've been overscheduling myself, so I don't really havetime for classes and my issue right now is I'm waiting on getting my schedulefor equanocks, so I can't open up time slots for VIP kid until Iknow when my hours are for equal knocks. That's a bit of a pickle,but I'll be fine once I get the schedule. You get the schedulefor the whole month, so I'll be good. Yeah, so it's thatis, you know, a nice little pay. What's Nice about the Ipkid is, I mean it's like super flexible in the sense that you literallylike make your own hours week by week, like you can do whatever you want. The only issue that I'm worried about is, like I'm already startingto have some regulars, but like, for example, next week I'm anormally have a student who comes to me on Tuesdays, but I'm not goingto be teaching on Tuesday because I'm going to Boston to visit Laura. Oh. You know, is my choice, like I'm choosing life and experiences andfriends over money in that situation, which I have been doing a lot lately. But you know, while I'm not working with a super strict schedule,I gotta take advantage of that and try to explore and live my life.So yeah, I'm just worried that because of that, my regular, quoteunquote, students will not want me anymore because I'll find someone else on Tuesdaysand then they like them better. I don't know. So we'll see.But it's really good in theory, in the sense that I can just makemy own hours, so that's really nice. I'm already like seeing how much moneyI'm going to be making from that, and it's not a crazy amount.But when I think about the fact that I just like wake up andquickly teach a class or a few and that I'm done and I have thewhole day ahead of me, like that's not bad. Just be like makingsome extra money, like it can pay for you know, like get paidfor my license renewal or my registration renewal...

...for my car, like great hundreddollars. There you go. That's that, and I'm excited to see where Igo with the IP kid. I might I don't know, I'm stillfeeling it out, if I really love it or because I think I couldsee myself like going full force with it and like some people do that aslike their fulltime job, like they'll do it all the time and advance andget certified to teach a bunch of different levels and do all this stuff.But I don't know, right now I'm like, I'm chilling where I amand I got to see how equinox goes. Yeah, so I have that.And then right now I also am still working for HBO, or forRittle and Bloom Marketing Company, where I'm in HBO Campus Brand Manager. Thatis obviously going to be wrapped up pretty soon, though. Well, itwas supposed to be wrapped up when I graduated, but then they asked ifI wanted to do a little summer summer gig for them, so I've beendoing that. That's some nice little extra money. Again, not that much, but I also really don't do that much. Just post a couple storieshere and there on my instagram. So it's really not that hard and theysend me a bunch of cool stuff, which is cool. Yeah, sothat's just so. Right now I guess I technically have three jobs, Imean, for if you count like the modeling I did today and like justlike acting. I don't know. So for jobs right now cool. Iwas talking with my cousins that like one day I will have one job andthat will be so nice, like if I could just be performing or likethe girl I met today, like just a fulltime model or just a fulltimelike performer, like that is that's the goal and I cannot wait for that. Like well, I enjoy these other things I do, I don't reallylike love them. I'm not really passionate about them. I mean I'm passionateabout, you know, kids and helping them, and I'm I'm passionate aboutworking out. I'm not necessarily passionate about what I'll be doing anyone knocks,but I'm not as passionate about those things as I am about performing. SoI look forward to the day where that is my soul income and I amdoing just fine with just that. But for now that's not the case,and I don't know if that is the case for a lot of people rightout of Postgrad, I mean especially in my industry, but another industries aswell. I mean, I know a lot of my friends from high schoolare Pretty Lucky and they've got like job offers, like for salaries and likereal big jobs, big girl jobs. So like good for them and they'vebeen working so hard for that their whole life. So I guess that isa possibility for some people. It's just definitely less common if you're in theentertainment business or the arts, etc. Yeah, so that's my experience withthat. Hopefully some of you can relate to this and have been through asimilar situation. Dm Me let me know. It's it's definitely hard right now and, like I've been getting the question a lot, especially with all ofmy family in town this week, like Oh, you graduated, like whatdo you up to now? And I have to be like, Oh,well, you know, I'm working, but not and I'm auditioning for Broadway, which isn't happening right now, and I like, it's just it's avery silly answer. So yeah, that's that's that on that and I yeah, like I said, I hope people can relate to this and can justplan ahead, if you're younger than me or if you're just in a differentposition than me right now financially, like just remember, like you should planahead and think about your future from a financial standpoint, because if you don't, you're just going to be playing catch up or not being able to dowhat you want. I know I wouldn't be able to move to New Yorkif I did not have this say things...

...that I've been saving for all ofcollege, like literally all of college. I worked a cheesecake factory and Iworked my butt off and I put that money away, or not all ofit, but like a good chunk of it, so that now my postgrady current me is less stressed and now post Grad current me is trying toplan for me and a year me and five years, so that way shewill also not be stressed, because I don't want to leave future me withno money. I don't want to use blow through all my savings. SoI need to continue to work so I can continue to have a say thingsand be okay and be as financially independent as possible and not have to takeout loans or do anything. Yeah, so that's that. On that andlike with that comes what I was alluding to, the apartment stress. Iwas at Brooks, like I said, in Hudson Valley. That's what's called, right. Yeah, and her friend, who is also our age but shehas like a big girl job, she was telling us that she isnow looking for apartments in New York and she was like wanting to move soon. So she's like like really looking and she has a realator and she hasroommates and the realator was saying to her like basically explaining how competitive moving toNew York is right now and how the price is like literally have gone upby like five hundred like it's no joke right now. That's pretty crazy,and places will be gone in like an hour, like literally. You haveto to get a place, you have to like have a realtor show upto the apartment and put an offer sale sign then and there, within likean hour of it being on the market, like literally. So maybe that's justthe case in Manhattan or just like in popular areas of Manhattan. That'skind of what I'm hoping. Yeah, I'm pretty stressed about that thought.So I'm I'm telling myself it's just those parts of Manhattan, but I doneed to start looking into it more again. Now I still need to figure outwho I'm living with too. I forget if I mentioned this. Ihad a friend I was going to live with, but he wanted to movea little bit earlier than I did. I wanted to try to save alittle bit longer and stay at my parents. So that's not working out and becauseof that I'm kind of like behind with asking my other friends who aremoving because they're already living together. I don't know. So I know it'llall work out and if not, I have my connections from sorority. I'min a facebook page for alumni from our sorority, so that's good. Ican always reach out and there's a bunch of people post on there saying they'relooking for a roommate or they already have an apartment and they just need aroommate to come live in it. Yeah, so that's that's my thought. They'rethe model I meant today. Lives in Bedstye, which is in Brooklyn. Bedford's divestant. It divestent. I think that anyway. Obviously I'm nota true New York or yet, but Um, she she lives there andshe was telling me she like has her car there and it's like pretty chill. So maybe that could be fun, like live in Brooklyn have my car. Yeah, so that's, you know, interesting. It's stressful. And theother thing that was stressful that I'm most dressed about is that brooks friendwas telling us that you need to like prove your salary, like your incomethat you're going to be making and it has to be a certain amount timesyour rent. So basically, like if you're not making like sight K,you're kind of screwed. And that's scary because I'm not making that. Andeven if I was, like it's hard to prove it or it's hard toshow like my past, like I waitressed for all of college and I don'thave any proof of my waitressing, like...

...my cash tips. And that'll bethe same if I then waitress in New York, which I think I'm goingto end up doing, probably because I don't think equ knocks and Lash VIPkid will pay enough, unless I'm booking performing jobs, which would would beideal. But if not, I need to waitress in New York. Sothat's going to be hard to prove because it's not just like a dead setsalary. And same with my other jobs, like there I get paid hourly.So kind of worried about that, but it'll all work out. Iknow I'll find a place and, like I said, hopefully that's just likethe really crazy popular areas in Manhattan are like that. So hopefully ill likefind a less popular area on Manhattan or in Brooklyn or wherever. A story, a queen's like literally whatever. I'm very open and flexible. So yeah, I'm just we're just a little stressed about it, but it'll all workout. And then the last topic I wanted to cover for now is datinglife. Yeah, it's very weird. I for all of college or while, since my like x and I broke up like my sophomore year, Ihave been like, Oh, I can't wait to be back in New York, back on the East Coast, so I can like really date, becauseI mean I dated in Utah, but I always knew that the boys Idated, they're like none of them we're gonna be like of like, youknow, future, like I just wouldn't have a future with any of thembecause they most likely were not going to move to New York and or theyjust grew up so different than me that they weren't going to be someone Iwould ultimately want to marry or settle down with. So I knew once Imove back here I could start like really dating more seriously, which is fun, because I like want a relationship. I mean I'm not saying any tomeet like my husband now. I'm just saying I want a more serious relationship, like sometime in the next six months to start. I mean, we'llsee. That's kind of like a short time limit but, like you know, in my head, like I'd like, I'd like to get something going.Um. But, having said that, it's weird because I have like nomotivation right now to date, like I am on a hinge, butI keep like pausing my account because I just like I have a great groupof guys that are liking me. I just go through the people who likeme and I respond to the ones that like, I like and I'm interestedin and then or I don't respond. I like like them back and thenthey like message me and then I literally don't answer, or I'll answer andthen like stop answering, like they think I'm ghosting them, and like Iguess I am, but it's like really not intentional. I'm just like,do you not feel like texting right now? I don't know why. And likethis one boy, like he's he's six three. He seems really interestedin me. He also wants a relationship and he seems great. I juststill don't have motivation to talk to him. I don't know. I mean we'relike to meet him. I guess I should. I think it's abig part of it. Maybe potentially is because I am living at my parentshouse right now and so I feel like it's kind of hard and weird todate while I'm at my parents house, like I don't know, I feellike I always have to tell them where I'm going and just like I don'tknow, it's just like awkward. So I'm that's like one of the reasonsI like want to move out. That's like the main reason I want tomove out in a timely manner, because otherwise I'd just be chilling here savingmoney for a bit, you know. But like I need to have myown space so I can court people like I need to. Yeah, Ijust need to have my own space for that stuff. So I don't know, it's maybe that's I mean, that is definitely part of why. Butalso, like I don't know why I don't just like feel like texting,like it's stupid. Like this one guy, we talked for a while on hingeand then I was texting him and...

...then I just like didn't answer,like I haven't answered him and like a week and then I answered him.I didn't answer him for like a week and then I was like, ohmy gosh, so sorry, I don't know what's wrong with me. Here'smy answer. And then literally he texted me again, like triple text me, and I still have answered him, and that was on Monday and chaseFriday. Like I need to get my life together, but I still don'tfeel like texting. I'm not going to text him today. I don't know. Should I just goes to him? I guess that's like what I'm doing, but I feel bad too, like he's literally said nothing wrong. I'mjust being weird. I don't know what it is. If any of youhave experienced this, for like you want to date, but you also havelike no motivation. Like hit me up because it's weird. Yeah, Ifeel like maybe I just need to like go out to like a bar andlike meet people in person and like talk to them, because that's like whatI really enjoy doing. Like I don't like texting, I don't like messagingthem, like I want to meet you and get to know you, butthen I guess in order to meet them and get to know that, Ineed to text them. So I don't know, it's it's all. It'ssilly. But Um, yeah, so I need to like get on that, but also like no rush, like I'm figuring my own stuff out now, which is like maybe that's also probably part of why I have no motivationfor that, because I'm like figuring out my life, like getting a newjob too, new jobs, and like applying for acting and for auditions andmodeling and just seeing my friends. I haven't seen him forever. So figuringout apartments, whatever, family. I guess that's it. Maybe I justhave a lot going on that I just don't feel like dealing with it.So, yeah, but Um, I'll keep you updated. I mean,I don't know, I don't know. We'll see. I'll do it eventually, I'll bite the bullet. Maybe I'll respond to that guy, the otherguy, H boy, I'm sorry if you've mashed with me on hinge andI'm not answering you. It's it's probably non intentional or it's not like personal. Don't take it personally. It's just that I'm it's me, it's me, it's not you, it's me. Yeah, I think that's gonna beit for this week's episode. Update. Check in. I don't know ifyou can tell. Oh, I already said this. My voice hurts,like my voice hurts, so I need to stop talking and I kind ofwant to call my friend after this, so that's unfortunate. But Um,yeah, so, Um, I'll I'll catch you, guys and next week. I hope again that this was like at least a fraction of it waslike relatable to you or someone you know. Like please send it their way.You can also send them and follow our instagram and Tick Tock, whichis at bold period and period balanced. That is bold and balanced with periodsin between. You can also email us at bold end balanced at GMAILCOM andyou can reach out about any questions about sponsorships or just any in grees youhave. Please hit US up. That is bold, then the letter nbalanced at gmailcom. And you can also join our facebook group. The linkis in the show notes. You should just be able to look up boldand balanced on facebook and we should come right up. Yeah, that isagain. That it is it for this week's episode. I can't speak anymore. I love you all and hope that you have a great week. HappyTuesday. Really.

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